So I asked someone a favor and they responded by saying that they would do me a favor if I agreed to do something else.  I was unwilling to agree to her demand.  So the questions are did I incur any debit in my favor bank by requesting a favor and is it ok to ask for an immediate favor back.

With respect to the immediate payment on the favor, I am on board with that.  Some people do not want to build equity in their favor bank account.  That should be ok so long as they understand that the favor has been repaid.

With respect to the impact of a requested favor that is not acted upon either by saying no or with a counter-request that is unreasonable.  I believe that the request does not incur any indebtedness.  For example, if I ask someone to help me jump my car battery and they are wrapped up with other obligations, then my friend did not render any services that warrant a credit in his favor bank.  So in the end, I believe that they have to take some form of action to get the credit and for you to incur the indebtedness.